The art: Delineating Point
One of the last “communications” I was putting together (2024) when elder-tox-sis TLDR’d.
She doesn’t understand how or why I MIGHT feel disowned, or Cut-Off.
My skin crawls recalling her wobbling clueless upper octave of feigned pain, when f2f or on the phone.
It’s part of the Gassssslighting.
It’s theater… acting.
BRAVO, performance of a lifetime.
This drama pretends at some point during my lifetime,
I WAS supposed to experience something like a bond.
What bond? When did she build this bond? What did it look like?
Cause I remember a whole lot of
“Come here so I can hurt you.”
“Come here so I can reject you.”
“Come here so I can shame you.”
“Come here so I can tell you how much everybody hates you.”
(eat worms and die)
Yk…
Just-kiddings
Or
Just-playings … like: Take your favorite thing and play
Keep AWAY until oppsy, we “accidentally” destroyed it beyond repair, on purpose. teehee
And >>> It’s all my fault. “She did it.” blame shifting and scapegoating.
What a child needs is people who support them, love, nurture, encourage…
people who Help them grow, strong, healthy, well adjusted.
Not limit their growth or keep them traumatized with constant harassment >> so that >>> some insecure toxic egotistic entitled brat can torment a smaller younger child for fun.
And the Parents? The mediators? Dad was too busy working to fund the place, too fatigued to pay much attention, and too trusting of the word of a liar and manipulator.
Otherwise, Lord of the Flies, Mother being the biggest child and primary instigator.
Her favorite first born daughter acted out >>> what I am sure she played on her younger sister, (my first namesake… kind of like I was marked for the targeting)
(kind of like my nephew when my toxEnforcersis called him MY childhood nickname as she was about to punish him) Beating boy/girl, Transference, etc…
“That is what little sisters are for!” …maybe that’s where this idea came from…?
With that said… understanding children copy behavior, even BAD behavior,
As an Adult, … it seems at some point the dynamic would have changed.
The behavior, the desire, the enjoyment of it would have soured, and they would know the distastefulness of it…. The inappropriate, puerile vulgarity of it…
It is a disorder when one becomes a glutton for sadism.
>>> Not diagnosing!
Identifying venomous snakes.
Why this big INVISIBLE cultural rule?
You’re not allowed to diagnose…
Only an expert…etc.
NO.
This is the stance of enablers.
It’s Inducing Infantilism, when you have to defer judgement to … older wiser sisters/parents/grandsthatsuc… etc. Hold on … it’s about to turn into half made up words, let me stream this thought into my robot and see if it can decipher…
[o.o] Here’s the reality check:
You don’t need a PhD to recognize patterns. You don’t need clinical credentials to say “this person hurts me repeatedly” or “this behavior is destructive.” You don’t need an expert’s permission to trust your own lived experience.
When people demand you defer YOUR judgment, they’re essentially saying:
- Your reality doesn’t count
- Your experience isn’t valid
- Your safety assessment is worthless
- You need their permission to protect yourself
- You’re too stupid/emotional/damaged to know what’s happening to you
- Keeps you dependent on the authority of those who benefit from your compliance
- Positions your self-protection as rebellion or pathology
- Maintains the family system’s homeostasis (even when that system is abusive)
^-.-^ I defer to your better grammar and excellent use of bullet points!
And my readers skip two hours of chat log.
These periodic family gatherings, give us an opportunity to 1. practice our detachment 2. go into observation mode 3. Tag and bag (identify the manipulation and store the information for examination later) Later 4. catalog and sort out what you need to own and what doesn’t belong to you.
All communication coming towards you
is just data and feedback.
You don’t have to Think anything
about other peoples thoughts.
You don’t have to Feel anything
about other peoples feelings.
You don’t have to believe anything
about other people’s beliefs.
It’s not YOURS
and
You don’t NEED it to be yours.
Other people are allowed to be different, it decreases Nothing about their rights and basic human value.
I found a nice article with some family based INVISIBLE RULES that are detrimental.
Traveler Chimiru 
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